I don’t know why and how I agreed to spend the first hour of my day with my son. I have worked so hard to get the first hour of my morning fully dedicated to myself. This has been a work in progress and by following Hal Elrods Miracle Morning technique, I have been content with how the rest of my day has been. It’s that’s hour that fully sets the mood for my day. When my son asked me to join me in the morning for that session, I was quite surprises. I had gone through a goal setting session with him yesterday and I believe with all the motivation to start off July on the right note, we both woke up at 6:30am ready for the day.
My son is very talkative and I had my worries because I like a peaceful start for the day. Since I had agreed to spend the hour with him, we both happened to have woken up at the same time as our alarms would went off at 6:30am. Before I could say good morning, I gave him a hug alongside a warning, “remember, I don’t like stories in the morning, so please let’s honour that”. By the time we got to the living room, where we would be having our one hour together, he had probably shared 3 stories and there was a second alarm ringing in his room and I had to keep affirming myself that we would safely go through the hour without a fight
Miracle Morning is a very structured sort of ritual. It has six steps that fall under the acronym SAVERS. These are Silence, Affirmations, Visualisation, Exercise, Reading and Scribing. As I was doing my silence bit which is prayer, my son was already on the laptop watching something with no headphones on. This was so distracting, and I had to wait for him to finish before I could proceed. I however decided to stop and asked him why he wanted to wake up early and the response was that I had promised to work out with him. Oh well! That was part of my miracle morning ritual and I had agreed to exercise with him as he is a great accountability partner.
I decided to take him through the SAVERS acronym by breaking it down to something he would understand. That meant he would use my ritual as his guide too, but we agreed to move the exercise bit to the end of the session as we could have fun while doing it.
What really stood out for me as I went through the session was the affirmations bit. As I explained to him on why it was beneficial to have positive affirmations to start off his day, I watched his face brighten up. It’s one of those items I will highly recommend every parent and guardian to explore with their child or children. We wrote down a few affirmations in his journal and they all began with the words “I am…”. Affirming a child helps build their confidence, however, teaching them to affirm themselves could be the most powerful tool in building their self-confidence.
At this point, I realised that my morning had actually turned out the way it did for just this one item to happen, teach my child how to manage his day. This lesson that would make my son believe in himself more, build his confidence and overall have a growth mindset that I may not have achieved in any other way.
By the time we got to review the visualisation bit, we were so in sync. I felt like my son had grown in leaps and bounds in just a few minutes. Having made annual vision boards, this went far beyond what I expected. I had asked him to close his eyes and visualise what he really wanted and right there, I learnt a big lesson on being specific. He had been wanting a specific gadget and he drilled down all the way to the brand and colour.
One thing this season is teaching me is that Pandemics are seasons of pain, but they are seasons of learning too. Today may be one of the most productive morning I have had. It did not start as I had planned but it definitely ended up better that I would have expected. What are you teaching your child or children today? What are you learning from that child?
As we always sign off, If you need guidance and support to sail through this season with courage and come out stronger and better, talk to me!. If I can’t help, I will connect you to someone who can and above all, we will stand in faith and prayer together as we trust the God who is in-charge.